3 Ways to Make a Plan When U R Depressed

I’m going to begin this episode by referencing a movie, hey, that’s not like you!

The movie is called Fight Club and you know what the rules of Fight Club are, right? 

Here are the 3 rules to making a plan when you have depression or anxiety, that I have learnt over my experience with depression and will now pass on to you.

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RULE #1

Don’t make a plan.

I made a plan years ago to end my life. Look at how that turned out. I think about that plan from time to time and wonder why I didn’t do it. I sometimes still want to do it, but most of the time I have moved on from that plan. The point is this, what was the point in making a plan when it didn’t happen. All that planning was a complete waste of time. So, advice number 1, don’t make a plan.

RULE #2

Don’t make a plan.

Plans are rigid, they are inflexible and they offer only one pathway towards completion of the plan. If you change your mind, or you think of a better way, or something happens that forces the plan to fail, then you are stuck in  a plan that is not going to work. So what was the point in making a plan? All that planning for nothing, Waste of time. You put precious time aside to write out or draw up a plan and all for nothing. Scrap the idea of making a plan, it stinks.

RULE #3

Don’t make a plan.

People who make plans stick to plans and blindly carry on with a plan when the world around them is collapsing. Just look at most governments in the world. They have a plan and that plan struggles because they insist on sticking to a plan that doesn’t work. Society is burning out, we are toast, but we’ll stick with this shit plan and ignore everything else. The world is chaotic, so you need to adapt, plans are too rigid. Covid-19 wasn’t part of the plan, but here in the UK we’re sticking to a plan that is outdated by the experience the collective have gone through.

People like us, I mean emotional people who cry when the world burns, think the plan stinks and wonder why there is no flexibility. We don’t sit well with rigid plans. We can see how stuck they become and how inflexible they are and we wonder why different ways of thinking cannot be applied. 

It’s because there is a plan, and we must go from A to D without anything else getting in the way. Plans are a waste of time. You can try to plan a journey in your car, but if something happens, you know, a spot of universal chaos, then your plan has to change and your route adapts. Our lives are the same, we have to adapt to daily things in order to move forwards. So you have an idea of the journey, a direction to head in, but no real, concrete plan.

You see, it even has it’s own phrase to weigh it down – concrete plan! What sort of shit is that! have you ever tried to move concrete?!

Therefore I renounce plans from my life and move to a different word…

IDEA

I don’t make plans, I make ideas. I dream up ideas and I think of different ways to make my idea come to fruition. Plans are irrelevant in this world, they mean nothing. Plans are glue-stiff versions of ideas that offer no space to breathe. Ideas are the future, the way, the great step, the grand scheme towards wonder and imagination. 

Ideas make the world better, well if they are good ideas they do. The man who came up with the milk carton, he was an ideas man. He had no plan, he just saw something that could be improved. Bill Gates, Steve Jobs; Spielberg, Lucas, Wachowskis, Duffer Brothers, Tarantino, all ideas people. 

Movie studios, Marvel, Disney and the like, planners. Usually the plans stink. 

Local government, NHS, central government et al – planners. Usually the plans stink.

Now if you go back in time to when Marvel Studios was a little upstart trying to break the status quo, they had IDEAS. You can see it in the quality right up to the first Avengers movie, there was no plan because there was no assurance that each film would hit it at the box office. Boom! Ideas. Let’s ride this wave of success and then go one better next time. It all ended with Endgame, literally. I mean, with the exception of Wandavision, what is going on there anymore? It’s like they’ve run out of ideas and are sticking to a…oh yeah, I get it.

Ideas can challenge and adapt. Ideas can grow and breathe. Ideas you can play with and mould. Ideas you throw away or can be reborn. When you throw an idea out there to other people they have room to give it some thought, they can throw another one in and then you can pick n’ mix these treats. Ideas are Play-Doh, Lego, or those breakfast cereals from back in my time of the world where you cut out the scene and then stuck on transfers of the characters. Ideas people. Ideas are jazz music. 

An old Shreddies box with Letraset transfers

When you listen to jazz there is no plan, it’s a collection of music makers with one goal, to have fun. Ideas are jazz and fun and pick n’ mix and beauty.

You see how flexible it is to not have a plan? I hope so. Because while writing this very exciting episode of my Empire of Imagination blog I am listening to Cowboy Bebop, by the great Seatbelts. It’s on Spotify, you buy it at Amazon by clicking on it, the series is on Netflix, and it has a real cool vibe of jazz and energy that epitomises the series and the characters. Spike and Jet have no plan, they just live. Ideas bring life. If you can find flexibility in your life then you are on the way to emotional freedom. 

Because let me say this before I depart, not literally, I mean just for this episode: 

IF YOU’RE FEELING SHIT ABOUT LIFE PLEASE KNOW THAT THE FEELING IS TEMPORARY. IT DOES NOT MAKE YOU WHO YOU ARE. THE PERSON YOU ARE IS STILL INSIDE THERE AND WHAT YOU NEED TO TO IS STOP, BREATHE, AND LISTEN. RE-FOCUS AND RESET. DO SOMETHING THAT JOLTS YOU AWAKE AND STOP MAKING RULES. THERE ARE NO RULES. REALISE THAT YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL AND UNIQUE INDIVIDUAL WHO HAS SOMETHING INSIDE THE HEART TO GIVE TO THE WORLD. WHATEVER IT IS, IT’S GONNA BE COOL.

I decided to not follow my plan twenty years ago to end my life. The present me is very glad the past me did that. The future me might disagree, but you know what, he’ll have to cross that bridge when it happens. Because since I made the decision to stop following that crazy plan I’ve been rewarded with so many wonderful experiences. The most recent being a standing ovation from an audience for a play I was in. That was Saturday, it would never have happened if I had stuck to my plan.

Screw plans people, and live your life with the glorious flexibility of ideas. 

Funk your life up and stay cool. You know it.

Published by zacthrav

writer - performer and general lover...that doesn't mean I love generals...of movies and pop culture. Tackling Mental Health using my super powers.

3 thoughts on “3 Ways to Make a Plan When U R Depressed

  1. Great read. You really are versatile as you go. Loved the breaks in writing. The same point reaffirmed in different ways. Xx
    Isa A. Bloggerhttps://www.lifestyleprism.com/

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